How to break a curse?
Feeling cursed means being weighed down by an invisible 100–ton boulder.
You know you’re cursed when:
Bad things keep happening.
You have sour luck.
Cats don’t want your touches.
Dogs bark.
Babies cry.
Bad news follows you like a cloud.
Everything feels hard for no apparent reason. People take what you say the wrong way. Your timing is off, and you feel rushed but somehow always behind.
There are many ways to know you’re carrying a curse. It’s mostly sensed, not known. You know it when you feel it. But it affects every corner of life, squishing existence into a smoldering coal of pain. But when we shake the funk, life begins to shine again.
When the curse is lifted:
The clouds part
Life begins to flow
Laughter comes easily
Good ideas are carried to you on birds’ wings
Food tastes good, and sleep is delicious
Relationships are effortless
Most dismiss the feeling of a curse and carry on in knee-deep mud. Only sinking deeper into the pain of stuckness.
Some seek the help of others, thinking that only a stranger can reverse their fate. But putting your fate entirely in someone else’s hands is dangerous. This externalizes an internal issue.
Others turn to crystals, books, oracles, serums, and sages.
While none of these options are bad, they are heading in the wrong direction.
A curse lives in us, so it can only be changed within us.
Whether you believe in real curses and magic or are just finding yourself in a funk, this will lift the raincloud that’s been following you around.
Its Source?
I’m personally agnostic about these things. Did it come from someone else, the universe? Is it karma, fate, or a placebo? Is it an actual curse or a limiting emotional state, identity, or belief? Who knows! As one of my magical teachers used to say, “I only work here.”
Regardless of the source, we’ve all had periods when things didn’t flow, disappointment lurked around every corner, and everything felt unnecessarily complicated.
Some call this a curse, others a funk or crappy luck. If it continues long enough, some call it a crappy life.
Whatever you call it, whatever you believe, it would be helpful to feel less of it.
To turn your luck around, get back into flow, and lift the curse.
Let’s talk about how.
First off, what is a curse?
Bad energy, a hex, a stuck state, karma, ancestral trauma?
It’s all of the above.
But really, it doesn’t matter.
A curse is an inner experience—an emotional state. So that’s the way we work with it.
You are a genie’s lamp. Whatever you experience within yourself will be projected outward in your life, relationships, and circumstances.
This is a poetic way of saying:
As within, so without.
Make a new wish. Be a new self.
The term curse comes from the 16th-century Old English word ‘Cursain,’ which means to wish evil upon or to excommunicate from God. So, to be cursed is to be disconnected from God, your inner wisdom and light, your higher self. However you prefer to phrase it.
Hell is the absence of God’s love. And a curse sends us to a hell of deprivation from our higher selves.
To be cursed is to be disconnected from the best version of ourselves and aligned with a lower identity.
The first task of lifting a curse is to re-establish a connection to a higher, more profound self and to clear old, stale identities tied to the lower self.
To unravel an identity, it must be peeled back in layers, and much like pulling a fence post out of the ground, we need to wiggle it back and forth to remove it slowly.
Releasing the curse
1.
Grab a pen and paper and write out this question.
What kind of person am I being when I feel cursed?
Write the first thing that comes to mind. There are no wrong answers.
A cursed person, a sad person, a bad person, a scared person. There are a million possible answers. Trust whatever comes to you first. Don’t worry if it doesn’t make sense.
Write down what identity you’re in when you feel cursed.
Now, step into the feeling of being that person. Notice what it might feel like to be that kind of person. Let’s say you’re being a sad person when you feel cursed. Step into what it feels like to be a sad person, just for long enough to feel it.
2.
Write down any images, thoughts, sensations, or emotions that arrive as you feel yourself being that identity.
3.
Write down what you want or your goal from that identity's perspective.
For example, after you step into being a sad person and notice what came up, ask yourself what you want as a sad person or what your goal is as that person. This could be anything: love, a sandwich, to be safe, lucky, whatever arrives. There are no wrong answers.
Write down what you want as this identity.
Now, step into what it might be like to have that want/goal completely. Really feel into what it would be like to have that goal already. You can imagine anything you need to imagine to achieve that, and you can even use magical thinking. Don’t worry about the outside world—step into having that goal in your mind. The important thing is imagining the feeling of having it.
Write down what you notice about it. Thoughts, images, sensations, emotions.
4.
Breathe deeply and let this settle. You’ll know you’ve done it when you feel pretty neutral. You’ll want to repeat this process until you don’t feel that cursed feeling anymore or until you feel peaceful.
There’s much more to this process, but this is a great place to begin. (Reply with any questions.)
5.
When you’re ready and feel more neutral, write down what kind of person is not cursed or is lucky/fortunate.
A happy person, a blessed person, whatever identity comes to you when you think about someone who isn’t cursed.
Ideally, the identity you come up with isn’t the ones I named above, but you can use those if you truly can’t think of anything else.
Feel yourself as that person. Step into what it might be like to be them. For example, step into what it might feel like to be a blessed person, even for a moment. Any degree of this experience will help.
Write down what that’s like and what comes up for you.
6.
When you feel what it’s like to be that not cursed person, ask yourself, ‘From that person's perspective, what action would I take right now?’
Write down what comes to you. Again, there are no wrong answers.
You may doubt whatever pops in, but that first sense of an answer will be your answer.
Go and do the action a lucky/not cursed person would do.
When in doubt, step back into what it feels like to be the kind of person who’s lucky/not cursed. From that perspective, ask yourself what you want/what action you want to take. Then do that thing.
This isn’t an ordinary action; this is a prayer to another life, a meditation on being who you are, an act of magic written in honey.
How you’ll know?
You’ll know the curse has lifted when the world takes a neutral tone towards you. You aren’t serenaded with birdsong, but you’re not getting pooped on by pigeons—just a gentle indifference hovers around you, like body temperature water.
When this happens, take your piece of paper and burn it. Spread the ashes in the soil of the nearest flower or under the nearest tree.
Repeat as needed.
If you feel cursed again, consider who you spend your time with. Then reconsider.
Warmly,
Lucas
P.S.
This is a small piece of an unconscious process. I wanted to share it here to get you started. It’s not meant to move mountains but to kick up some gravel. When stuck, moving anything can be the beginning of moving everything. Be gentle and start small. Let me know if you have any questions along the way. Hit ‘reply’ to this email with thoughts/questions.